The Top Eleven Good Reasons to Get Married By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT Dating is a chance to practice relating to a number of different people, before committing to the intense intimacy and the responsibility of a true relationship. The whole point of dating is to experience your new friend without making a commitment. […]
Turn on Your Charm By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT Ever wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong. Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off. […]
Where is Love? By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT Probably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves. In […]
You Be the Judge By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT As I write this, Congress is struggling with whether to accept a new Supreme Court justice. It’s an important issue, because his judgment, and that of the other justices, will affect our lives for years to come. But there’s a kind of judgment that impacts […]
The One Who Got Away By Tina B. Tessina, PhD When I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door. Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly […]
Age Differences In Dating by Tina B. Tessina, Phd Dr. Romance gets many letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn’t attracted to success, smarts, and experience? Young […]
Grandma’s Dating Advice By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT While fashions, fads, and technology change, the basic skills of human communication, cooperation and commitment don’t. A healthy, happy, lasting relationship needs the same abilities to share thoughts and feelings with each other, to work through problems with the intent of reaching a solution rather than […]
Friends With Benefits by: Tina B. Tessina, PhD If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it’s not so simple. *If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result […]
Stupid Cupid By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT In my counseling practice, however, I see lots of couples who don’t make it, for various reasons. Cupid, the god who represented love to the ancient Romans, was blind. In mythology, he’s been represented as a cherub, a perpetual baby, (which means someone without wisdom or judgement) […]
Debunking Myths about Dating By Tina B. Tessina, PhD A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how other people think you should behave or things should happen) and myths (common beliefs which are not based on fact). Having such expectations and myths can shape your behavior […]
