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The Top Eleven Reasons To Get Married

The Top Eleven Reasons To Get Married

The Top Eleven Good Reasons to Get Married By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT Dating is a chance to practice relating to a number of different people, before committing to the intense intimacy and the responsibility of a true relationship. The whole point of dating is to experience your new friend without making a commitment. […]

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Turn On Your Charm

Turn On Your Charm

Turn on Your Charm By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT Ever wondered how con artists can get away with all they do? They know how to charm people, and they have mastered the art of looking as if they belong.  Because they have no feelings of guilt about misrepresenting themselves, they can pull it off.  […]

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Where Is Love

Where Is Love

Where is Love? By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT Probably the most prevalent question I’m asked in my counseling practice is “Where is love?” Clients want to know why they can’t find a successful life partnership, why a friend or family member won’t respond as they would like, even why they don’t love themselves.  In […]

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You Be The Judge

You Be The Judge

You Be the Judge By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT As I write this, Congress is struggling with whether to accept a new Supreme Court justice. It’s an important issue, because his judgment, and that of the other justices, will affect our lives for years to come.  But there’s a kind of judgment that impacts […]

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The One Who Got Away

The One Who Got Away

The One Who Got Away By Tina B. Tessina, PhD When I was a girl, growing up in the small township of Rockland, New York, there was a tiny post office, which was a small room with a separate entry in the house next door.   Rockland’s official postmistress was Clara Weiss, who seemed very elderly […]

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Age Difference In Dating

Age Difference In Dating

Age Differences In Dating by Tina B. Tessina, Phd Dr. Romance gets many letters about older women dating younger men, which appears to be shocking to some people, but I don’t find it so unusual. Why would a younger man want to date an older woman? Who isn’t attracted to success, smarts, and experience? Young […]

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Grandma’s Dating Advice

Grandma’s Dating Advice

Grandma’s Dating Advice By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT While fashions, fads, and technology change, the basic skills of human communication, cooperation and commitment don’t. A healthy, happy, lasting relationship needs the same abilities to share thoughts and feelings with each other, to work through problems with the intent of reaching a solution rather than […]

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Friends With Benefits

Friends With Benefits

Friends With Benefits by: Tina B. Tessina, PhD If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it’s not so simple. *If one of you becomes romantically attached as a result […]

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Stupid Cupid

Stupid Cupid

Stupid Cupid By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT In my counseling practice, however, I see lots of couples who don’t make it, for various reasons.   Cupid, the god who represented love to the ancient Romans, was blind.  In mythology, he’s been represented as a cherub, a perpetual baby, (which means someone without wisdom or judgement) […]

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Debunking Myths About Dating

Debunking Myths About Dating

Debunking Myths about Dating  By Tina B. Tessina, PhD  A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how other people think you should behave or things should happen) and myths (common beliefs which are not based on fact).  Having such expectations and myths can shape your behavior […]

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From Friends To Lovers and Back

From Friends To Lovers and Back

FROM FRIENDS TO LOVERS AND BACK By Tina B. Tessina, PhD, LMFT In my counseling office, I’m often asked about friends who once were lovers, and if they can make the change to friends again. Friendships that go from friends to lovers back to friends can be very close, because you know each other so […]

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Establishing New Connections

Establishing New Connections

Date nights for us were few and far between when a child is involved. Not saying that as a bad thing at all, just that alone time is very limited. One day we got a sitter so that we could actually go out to eat. After having a nice dinner together, we stopped by what […]

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New Life after Divorce

New Life after Divorce

New Life After Divorce New Life After Divorce A 3 year marriage ended in divorce. I was left with an empty feeling and insecurities. I struggled with depression, anxiety, and stress from the mental and emotional abuse. Many times when you “love” someone, you become blinded by what should be obvious. I longed to get […]

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Stalked part 5

Stalked part 5

Chapter 5 January 2011 After 4 ½ years of hell, there was finally a warrant out for stalkers arrest.  He was being charged with 3 felony counts of stalking, up to 26 years in prison.  I could not believe it and was thrilled!  After literally years of fighting, frustration, pushing, basically stalking the people who […]

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Dating Guidelines for Single Parents

Dating Guidelines for Single Parents

Dating Guidelines for Single Parents As a single parent, you probably have so little free time that dating seems an impossible task. Yet, single parents are dating in unprecedented numbers, so if you’re looking for another “head of household” to date, you’ll find one. As a responsible parent, you’ll want to be very cautious about […]

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Stalked part 4

Stalked part 4

Stalked – Chapter 4 I’ve never felt so helpless and desperate in my life, but after meeting Detective Lorrie, I had some hope.  It’s been months but felt like a lifetime.  It started October 12th and it is now March and 6 months in.  I want desperately to believe her. March 1st Court for Chris […]

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10 Reasons for Not Falling in Love

10 Reasons for Not Falling in Love

Although you might think of “falling in love” as romantic; we all fall in love many times in life: with a new lover, a new friend, a particularly cooperative co-worker, an appealing movie or TV star, a caring neighbor, siblings, relatives and even pets. Any close relationship involves falling in love at least a little […]

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Stalked part 3

Stalked part 3

STALKED – CHAPTER 3 Readers discretion is advised. We are now directly in the path of a self proclaimed freight train.  Stalker has made it perfectly clear he was trying to completely ruin my life, and had no boundaries.  He was also going after everyone in my life.  The PO has no effect. It has […]

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Dating after Divorce

Dating after Divorce

Dating After Divorce, Breakup or Loss By Tina B. Tessina, Phd, LMFT Deciding to date again after a loss or breakup is not easy. The first order of business is grieving and healing. If you try and skip over the hurt and grieving and find someone else right away, you’ll most likely wind up in […]

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Stalked Part 2

Stalked Part 2

Up til now he mainly targeted me.  It didn’t matter what route I took to work, or what car I drove my life was pretty routine.  I had to be at the office around 8:00am. He knew that. I had to pick up my kids by 6. He knew that too. With 3 small children […]

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Best First Outdoor Date ideas

Best First Outdoor Date ideas

Best First Date Idеаѕ Sо, уоu’vе mеt ѕоmеоnе, maybe thrоugh a friend, оnlinе dаting оr maybe juѕt in уоur local ѕuреrmаrkеt. Yоu’vе ѕtаrtеd talking аnd they have аgrееd tо gо on a date with уоu. Now, where dо уоu tаkе thеm? Thе trаditiоnаl dinnеr and a film iѕ okay, but you can dо better than […]

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STALKED Part 1

STALKED Part 1

My name is Dawn Hillyer, I’m the Founder and Owner of HidingHilda, LLC. Below is the true story of life with a stalker, police interactions, the trial and life after he gets out of prison.  I’ve heard from several women across the company having the same problems with getting help.  It’s time to shed a […]

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Luѕt Vѕ Love-What Dо You Have?

Luѕt Vѕ Love-What Dо You Have?

Whеn it соmеѕ to the ԛuеѕtiоn оf luѕt vs. love, dо уоu knоw whеrе уоu ѕtаnd? Cаn уоu separate the twо, оr dо you find уоurѕеlf thinking one thing whilе hе’ѕ thinking аnоthеr? Dо уоu know whаt to dо whеn уоu are infаtuаtеd with a new guу, but rеаllу want something lasting? Here аrе a […]

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Dating Safety Tips

Dating Safety Tips

Dating Safety Tips Making Your Experience Safe is Your Number One Priority We appreciate meeting someone for the first time or early in a relationship is both very captivating and intriguing as it should be. However, your sound judgment and instincts are your best protection in the endeavor. Proceeding with caution when communicating with someone you are […]

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