Friends With Benefits

Friends With Benefits by: Tina B. Tessina, PhD If you’re thinking about having sex with a friend, be very careful, because it is not easy to preserve a friendship once you have sex. We think we can control our feelings, but it's not so simple. *If one of you becomes...

Stupid Cupid

Stupid Cupid By Tina B. Tessina, PhD LMFT In my counseling practice, however, I see lots of couples who don’t make it, for various reasons.   Cupid, the god who represented love to the ancient Romans, was blind.  In mythology, he’s been represented as a cherub, a...

Debunking Myths About Dating

Debunking Myths about Dating  By Tina B. Tessina, PhD  A lot of the problems that come up in dating again are generated by social expectations (how other people think you should behave or things should happen) and myths (common beliefs which are not based on fact). ...

From Friends To Lovers and Back

FROM FRIENDS TO LOVERS AND BACK By Tina B. Tessina, PhD, LMFT In my counseling office, I’m often asked about friends who once were lovers, and if they can make the change to friends again. Friendships that go from friends to lovers back to friends can be very close,...

Establishing New Connections

Date nights for us were few and far between when a child is involved. Not saying that as a bad thing at all, just that alone time is very limited. One day we got a sitter so that we could actually go out to eat. After having a nice dinner together, we stopped by what...

New Life after Divorce

New Life After Divorce New Life After Divorce A 3 year marriage ended in divorce. I was left with an empty feeling and insecurities. I struggled with depression, anxiety, and stress from the mental and emotional abuse. Many times when you "love" someone, you become...