Dating Safety Tips
We appreciate meeting someone for the first time or early in a relationship is both very captivating and intriguing as it should be. However, your sound judgment and instincts are your best protection in the endeavor. Proceeding with caution when communicating with someone you are just getting to know is your best protection for safety and well-being since you are in control of your experience(s).
1. Always Use Common Sense and Good Judgment
- As with any personal interaction, keep in mind it is always possible for people to misrepresent themselves. Assessing a match’s truthfulness and honesty is ultimately your responsibility.
- Don’t ignore any facts that seem inconsistent or “off.” Trust your instincts and remember that you have control over the situation.
- If you’re talking to someone online or by phone and they say things that raise your suspicions, consider ending the conversation.
- If you’re out on a date and you feel uncomfortable, leave.
- Be aware of your and their Alcohol consumption
2. Possible Red Flags
- Straightaway requests to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service.
- Claims that your introduction was “destiny or fate”.
- Claims to be from the U.S. but is currently living, working, or traveling abroad.
- Asks for money, goods or aid, especially if you have never met in person.
- Asks you to aid with transactions like (depositing funds, shipping merchandise, etc).
- Reports a sudden personal crisis and pressures you to provide financial assistance.
- Requests your home or work address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.
- Tells inconsistent or grandiose stories (Fish Tales.
- Usually giving vague answers to specific questions.
- Urges you to compromise your principles.
- Constantly blames others for troubles in their life.
- Insists on getting overly close, very fast.
- Claims to be recently have lost a spouse.
- Vanishes suddenly from the site then resurfaces under a different name.
3. Financial and Certain Personal Information
- NEVER Ever give out your credit card number or bank information.
- NEVER Ever share your Social Security Number, mother’s maiden name, or other private information that can be used to access your financial information.
- NEVER Ever send money to someone you meet online, especially by wire transfer.
- Immediately stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal or financial information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it
- Never respond to any request to send money, especially overseas or by wire transfer, and report it to us immediately – even if the person claims to be in an emergency.
- Wiring money is like sending cash: the sender has no protections against loss and it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money.
4. Protect Your Account
Keep conversations on the platform.
Bad actors will try to move the conversation to text, personal email or phone conversations.
- When accessing accounts from a public or shared computer, use caution, protect passwords.
- Be aware of your surroundings so others are not able to view or record personal information.
5. Please Report any Suspicious Behavior for Yourself and Others
Asking you for cash, checks or donations.
Minors using the platform.
Members sending harassing or offensive messages or emails.
Members behaving inappropriately during or after meeting in person.
Fraudulent registration or profiles.
Spam or solicitation, such as invitations to call 1-900 numbers or attempts to sell products or service.
You can block and report concerns about any suspicious user anonymously from any profile page, email or messaging window
6. So You Mutually Decided to Meet
- Choose the time and place of your date intelligently.
- Meet in a public place at a decent hour during which lots of people will be around.
- Consider a Lunch or Happy Hour date with Limited Time.
- Limit alcohol intake or refrain entirely until you know the person better.
- Use your own transportation on a first date or a Taxi.
- Never agree to be picked up at your home.
- It’s never a good idea to get into somebody’s personal vehicle on a first date.
- Tell at least one friend or family member about your plans and when you will return.
- Arrange to check in with them after each of the first few dates.
- Carry a fully charged mobile phone with effortlessly accessible emergency numbers.
- Don’t leave unattended personal belongings such as purses, wallets, which could reveal personal information about you, such as a driver’s license, credit cards and ATM etc.
- Never meet at your house or place of work.
- Never give addresses out until you have had occasion to know the other person better.
- Don’t incur large expenses without first conferring on how the cost will be divided.
- Never go home with someone, even if it feels like everything is going great.
- Don’t let high hopes cloud your ability to exercise reasonable caution.
7. Ensuring proper sexual health and safety tips
- You and your partner should use proper safeguards.
- Condoms and other devices can considerably reduce the risk of contracting or passing on an STI, such as HIV.
- You can still get some STI’s, like herpes or HPV from contact with your partner’s skin, even when using a condom.
- To be effective, protective actions must be used constantly.
- It is totally practical to have a conversation with your partner regarding sex and sexual contact prior to actually having it.
- Issues ranging from the number of partners to the last time each of you were tested for STI’s are very reasonable.
- If either you or your lover has an STI that is correctable, you both need to start treatment to avoid becoming reinfected.
- It is very important to be completely honest in these conversations.
- The risk of contracting some STI’s can be reduced through proper vaccination.
- Please talk to your doctor or visit a health clinic to learn more.
- Know your status as some STI’s don’t show symptoms.
- Consistent testing is critical to staying on top of your general health while also helping prevent the spread of STI’s.
- Once tested, always ask for a copy of your test results for your records.
- For Further Help, Support or Advice feel free to email email@example.com
- In the case that something has happened, immediately call 911. Emergency situations include a recent threat of violence or sexual violence, recent act of violence or sexual violence or if your health or someone else is in danger.
- If something has happened and you’re in need of help, support or advice pertaining to physical or sexual assault, please call the below 24hr hotlines.
- Sexual Offender resource https://www.nsopw.gov/?AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1
- Rape, Abuse and Incest National Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE | www.rainn.org
- Planned Parenthood
1-800-230-7526 | www.plannedparenthood.org
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 | www.thehotline.org