Dating Safety Tips
We appreciate meeting someone for the first time or early in a relationship is both very captivating and intriguing as it should be. However, your sound judgment and instincts are your best protection in the endeavor. Proceeding with caution when communicating with someone you are just getting to know is your best protection for safety and well-being since you are in control of your experience(s).
1. Always Use Common Sense and Good Judgement
- Be aware of your and their alcohol consumption.
- Don’t ignore any facts that seem inconsistent or “off.”
- If you’re out on a date and you feel uncomfortable, leave.
- Keep in mind it is always possible for people to misrepresent themselves.
- Trust your instincts and remember that you have control over the situation.
- Assessing a match’s truthfulness and honesty is ultimately your responsibility.
- If you’re talking to someone online or by phone and they say things that raise your suspicions, consider ending the conversation.
2. Possible Red Flags
- Tells inconsistent or grandiose stories.
- Claims to recently have lost a spouse.
- Insists on getting overly close, very fast.
- Urges you to compromise your principles.
- Claims that your introduction was destiny or fate.
- Constantly blames others for troubles in their life.
- Usually giving vague answers to specific questions.
- Vanishes suddenly from the site then resurfaces under a different name.
- Asks for money, goods or aid, especially if you have never met in person.
- Claims to be from the U.S. but is currently living, working, or traveling abroad.
- Straightaway requests to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service.
- Requests your home or work address under the guise of sending flowers or gifts.
- Asks you to aid with transactions like (depositing funds, shipping merchandise, etc).
- Reports a sudden personal crisis and pressures you to provide financial assistance.
3. Financial and Certain Personal Information
- NEVER Ever give out your credit card number or bank information.
- DO NOT send money to someone you meet online, especially by wire transfer.
- NEVER Ever share your Social Security Number, mother’s maiden name, or other private information that can be used to access your financial information.
- Immediately stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal or financial information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.
- Never respond to any request to send money, especially overseas or by wire transfer, and report it to us immediately – even if the person claims to be in an emergency.
- Wiring money is like sending cash: the sender has no protections against loss and it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace the money.
4. Protect Your Account
Keep conversations on the platform
- Bad actors will try to move the conversation to text, personal email or phone conversations.
When accessing accounts from a public or shared computer, use caution, protect passwords.
Be aware of your surroundings so others are not able to view or record personal information.
5. Please Report any Suspicious Behavior for Yourself and Others
Minors using the platform.
- Fraudulent registration or profiles.
- Asking you for cash, checks or donations.
Members sending harassing or offensive messages or emails.
Members behaving inappropriately during or after meeting in person.
Spam or solicitation, such as invitations to call 1-900 numbers or attempts to sell products or service.
You can block and report concerns about any suspicious user anonymously from any profile page, email or messaging window
6. So You Mutually Decided to Meet
- Never agree to be picked up at your home.
- Never meet at your house or place of work.
- Choose the time and place of your date intelligently.
- Use your own transportation on a first date or a Taxi.
- Consider a lunch or happy hour date with limited time.
- Arrange to check in with them after each of the first few dates.
- Don’t let high hopes cloud your ability to exercise reasonable caution.
- Never go home with someone, even if it feels like everything is going great.
- It’s never a good idea to get into somebody’s personal vehicle on a first date.
- Meet in a public place at a decent hour during which lots of people will be around.
- Don’t incur large expenses without first conferring on how the cost will be divided.
- Tell at least one friend or family member about your plans and when you will return.
- Carry a fully charged mobile phone with effortlessly accessible emergency numbers.
- Never give addresses out until you have had occasion to know the other person better.
- Don’t leave unattended personal belongings such as purses, wallets, which could reveal personal information about you, such as a driver’s license, credit cards and ATM etc.
7. Ensuring proper sexual health and safety tips
- You and your partner should use proper safeguards.
- Know your status as some STI’s don’t show symptoms.
- To be effective, protective actions must be used constantly.
- Please talk to your doctor or visit a health clinic to learn more.
- It is very important to be completely honest in these conversations.
- Once tested, always ask for a copy of your test results for your records.
- The risk of contracting some STI’s can be reduced through proper vaccination.
- Condoms and other devices can considerably reduce the risk of contracting or passing on an STI, such as HIV.
- Issues ranging from the number of partners to the last time each of you were tested for STI’s are very reasonable.
- You can still get some STI’s, like herpes or HPV from contact with your partner’s skin, even when using a condom.
- Consistent testing is critical to staying on top of your general health while also helping prevent the spread of STI’s.
- It is totally practical to have a conversation with your partner regarding sex and sexual contact prior to actually having it.
- If either you or your lover has an STI that is correctable, you both need to start treatment to avoid becoming reinfected.
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- In the case that something has happened, immediately call 911. Emergency situations include a recent threat of violence or sexual violence, recent act of violence or sexual violence or if your health or someone else is in danger.
- If something has happened and you’re in need of help, support or advice pertaining to physical or sexual assault, please call the below 24hr hotlines.
- Sexual Offender resource https://www.nsopw.gov/?AspxAutoDetectCookieSupport=1
- Rape, Abuse and Incest National Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE | www.rainn.org
- Planned Parenthood
1-800-230-7526 | www.plannedparenthood.org
- National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 | www.thehotline.org